Since I travel to different buildings during my workday I don’t really have an “office” per se. I usually work from the seating area of one of the cafe’s. It’s not out of the ordinary as the seating area generally houses many out-of-towners and nomads such as myself. Working in this type of environment has its perks but there are also drawbacks (think living out of a backpack). One aspect of this set up I enjoy is that I do get to interact with so many people on a daily basis. While it can be overwhelming at times, just about every person I know at work will come and say “hi”.
Begin Typical Conversation (RP = Random Person)
RP: How are you today?
A: I’m doing well and yourself?
RP: Oh good, just been doing –abc- and –def- you know, staying busy.
A: That’s great! Your family is doing well?
RP: Yes very well thank you
A: So good to hear, have a great day!
RP: Yes you too!
It’s your typical office small talk. Well, this particular day caught me a little off guard. Instead of the usual “Have a great day” goodbye, RP said:
“Well you look very healthy have a great day”
My response: “Ohh you too, I mean you have a great day too”.
“You look very healthy?” I thought to myself. I’m confused. And then I had this conversation in my head.
Did I not look healthy before? What does healthy look like? Am I wearing skinny jeans? Is my skin glowing and that’s why it was said? No no no my skin isn’t glowing that’s what happens when you’re pregnant and you are definitely not that. Am I wearing more makeup? Oh, it’s cause I’m wearing heals so I am taller and more confident looking. Does it mean I look athletic? Did I not look like I worked out before?
You get the idea.
I couldn’t get over this whole “you look healthy” comment. It’s just not something I hear often in a conversation with someone whom I don’t know much about and who doesn’t know much about me (other than the fact that I am a dietitian). I think because I feel so strongly that “healthy” feels/looks different for everyone that I had so many questions.
Then I decided to get over all the questions I was asking myself. Of course this was not without contemplation that I should go ask RP what was meant by the non-traditional goodbye. I nixed the idea when I assumed I’d be deemed a little crazy when RP probably didn’t think twice about it.
Healthy does feel/look different for everyone so I’m going to take this one as a compliment and run with it. Though I still think it’s a weird goodbye, it gave me some insight into the way I think.
Take it as something positive and move on Allison. Stop over-analyzing everything (though secretly I know that will never change).
Looking healthy is a great thing; Take it as just that!